What is The Difference Between Humility and Humiliation?

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We often hear of humility in the context of Christian virtue and are reminded that Christ and The Blessed Mother were certainly paragons of that kind of humility.  As followers of Christ, we are thus expected to be as humble as possible as we love and serve God and others. However, many people have the wrong idea about humility and often confuse it with humiliation.

The True Meaning of Humility

Humility is simply realizing, accepting, embracing, and maximizing the fact that we are nothing more than God’s instruments for love and service.  It is not about us but rather about God, and the sooner we get that the faster we will truly do God’s work the way He wants us to do that work.  Much, if not most, of sin stems from thinking that it is about us or what we want.  When we truly empty ourselves of self and see God as the core, great things happen.

The Distorted Meaning of Humility

Too many people today see humility as being a quiet doormat, a passive or reticent mummy who is glad to step into the background.  How wrong this view is !  Does this describe Christ to you?  It does not do that for me!  Christ was the ultimate in humility yet he was no wallflower.  Humility means thinking of God and others before self, but that may require us to be very assertive and tough at times. For example, suppose someone was spitting at an image of Christ.  Would you just step back quietly or do something about it?  People imagine a humble person as not thinking that they are qualified to speak or act in many cases, but that is not what humility really is.

Humility is not about being scared or so passive as to be insignificant in this world.  Just look at the most humble Christ and Mary and ask if they have made a difference in this world.

The Culprit…Humiliation and Its Difference to Humility

When people distort humility, they are usually doing it via humiliation, which many people think means the same thing.  Humility is directed at voluntarily embracing God and others before our own interests. It is not about shame or comparison with others. By contrast, humiliation is all about shame and comparison and self and has nothing voluntary about it.

When we are humiliated, it is because we feel shame in comparing ourselves to others and feeling that we have been reduced somehow in that comparison against our will ( involuntary).  Being bashed by a teacher in public or laughed at by onlookers is humiliating if one somehow feels reduced in the eyes of others by this situation.

There is the key difference between humility and humiliation:  humility is voluntarily placing, serving, and loving God and others before self and humiliation is involuntarily  feeling reduced or shamed openly and publicly in comparison to how we see ourselves.  The person who thinks she can sing and is laughed off stage is humiliated. The one who knows she cannot sing and is laughed off stage was expecting the response and may laughingly go along with the response.

The Solution

You should never and will never be humiliated serving and loving God and others as long as you realize and embrace the fact that doing so is the greatest calling we can have. However, doing these things will go hand in hand with being humble because they are the very essence of what being humble is all about.  Many say Jesus died a humiliating death but I propose that he died a humble death.  He willingly and freely gave himself up to love and serve God and us and there is nothing humiliating about that.

So understand the difference between humility and humiliation and make it your goal to be the former so you will never experience the latter.

2017  Gabriel Garnica



The Magnificat….Mary’s Lesson

Many have heard of Mary‘s beautiful canticle of praise and thanksgiving, but few realize that it is the longest set of words spoken by a woman in the New Testament, and that it is also Our Blessed Mother’s response to a future New World Order that is now sweeping across our world.

“My soul doth magnify the Lord, 
and my spirit hath rejoiced
in God my saviour”

    From Her opening words, Our Blessed Mother reminds us that true worship should be a very personal and profound thing, which implies not only outward praise and prayer, but also internal commitment, respect, and joy. God should be the center and purpose of our actions, of our thoughts, and of our lives. We must be as lamps which joyfully hold the brilliant spark of truth in our Faith and which burn brightly against the winds of a world, which grows, ever colder and darker.

The New Order dislikes the intimate, one-on-one worship and praise, which Mary is talking about. It prefers a more publicly oriented, crowd-pleasing, hold hands and feel good religion. God Almighty magnifies our actions into results, which transcend those simple actions, and those actions themselves magnify the touch of God in the lives we touch while serving God and each other. When one thinks of magnification, a magnifying glass comes to mind. What does a magnifying glass do? It focuses and therefore increases the intensity of light to accomplish things not possible without such focus and magnification. Likewise, the mutual magnification between God Almighty and our actions, service, charity, and words in His Name focus and increase the intensity and therefore the power of what we can accomplish as a result as well.

Our Faith is rich with such magnifying traditions, doctrines, and liturgy! The New Order, on the other hand, seeks to diffuse, to disperse, and to spread out our focus to reach “everyone”. Christ is not focused in The Blessed Sacrament as The Real Presence according to The New Order. He is “everywhere” and in “everyone” therefore our focus and intensity is lost. Instead of focusing us on our true target, as a magnifying glass does, the New Order seeks to disperse and spread our focus so thin that we will lose our target and accomplish nothing of any value as a result.

“Because He hath regarded the humility of His handmaid;
for, behold, henceforth all generations
shall call me blessed; because He
Who is mighty has done great
Things for me, and holy is
His name”

    Here Mary speaks of humility, gratefulness, and thankfulness, which are key aspects of true Catholic faith, doctrine, tradition, and liturgy. God Almighty’s blessings are so constant and bountiful that our gratefulness and thankfulness can never end and yet will never match God’s generous love and mercy for us. In that vein, we must always honor and respect God Almighty through His Word, His Name, and His relevance in our lives.

The New Order has no clue what humility, gratefulness, thankfulness, or submissiveness to the power and majesty of God means. Its message is one of arrogance, selfishness, assertiveness, and self-glorification. It delights in twisting the notion of God into any shape, which fits its motives and agenda. Certainly the respect for God and Christ decreases as the influence of The New Order increases. This is seen in liturgical and practice changes resulting from New Order philosophies.

And His mercy is from 
generation to generation
to them that fear Him.

    God Almighty’s favor and mercy are ageless, and are not tied down to any of our earthly notions of merit, logic, or quantity, for if they were, we would be doomed! On the contrary, God’s standards and justice are beyond our reasoning and understanding. The more we respect, obey, and fear the wrath of God, the more likely we will benefit from the Almighty’s favor and mercy. The New Order delights in placing standards and limits on everything. It is enamored with precision, calculation, standardization, and justification on earthly terms. It cares little for agelessness but rather sees that characteristic as a handicap in an age ever-looking forward blind of the past.

The New Order certainly does not fear or respect God as it should. One need only look at the abominations and blasphemies, which the New Order allows and encourages to see that this Order has lost its fear and respect for The Creator of The Universe.

He hath showed might in His arm;
He hath scattered the proud in the conceit
of their heart. He hath put down the mighty
from their seat, and hath exalted the humble.
He hath filled the hungry with good things;
and the rich He hath sent empty away.

    Mary reminds us that God’s priorities differ from ours, and that He tends to magnify the results of humble expectations and diminish the results of arrogant, selfish expectations. Our true Catholic Faith is rich with calls for a humble sacrifice and approach to God. It has no place for selfishness or self-glorification. Once again our tradition and Faith is rich with examples of God’s generous blessing of the lowly and humble over the proud, selfish and arrogant. The New Order thrives on pride, selfishness and arrogance in its disrespect for tradition and the past. Like the Pharisees it is full of self-righteous, pompous purveyors of false teachings and abominations.

He hath received Israel, His servant, 
being mindful of His mercy;
as He spoke to our fathers, to Abraham
and to his seed forever.

    Mary respected, knew, and practiced tradition. She trusted in God’s Word and in those who came before Her and who were chosen by God to lead His people in the true practice of their faith. The New Order detests tradition, everywhere seeks to overturn it, ignores or ridicules the Fathers of The Faith and trusts only in its own agenda.


Our Blessed Mother’s Magnificat is more than a beautiful song of praise and thanks uttered by The Mother of God and the Queen of Heaven. It is Her answer, and should be ours, to a New World Order either secular or ecclesial which stands for everything the Magnificat is not about. Its beautiful yet simple words and phrases sing a song, which has never been, and will never be, in the jukebox of The New Order. The more we allow that Order to infect our Faith, the less we will connect with the truths found in the Magnificat, which single-handedly illustrates why Mary and The New Order do not, and cannot, mix.

Copyright 2011  Gabriel Garnica

It All Begins With God

Many speak of  love, service, joy, humility, and many other beautiful concepts which will help us fulfill our eternal destiny of salvation. However, one cannot focus on the derivative to the neglect, initially, of the initiative which, in this case, is and will always be God Almighty. This can be proven on a number of levels. One may see love as either an objective or a tool toward some other objective.  To the extent that true love cannot be a goal unto itself but must be directed toward another, it cannot be its own objective and thus any love which is an objective unto itself cannot be true love. Since God is true, pure love, then it stands to reason that such love can never be the objective in any path toward salvation. If true and pure love can only exist when applied toward another, then pure and true love must be a tool toward some other, greater objective.  I say “greater” because any love applied as a tool toward some objective lower than itself would, by definition, be debasing itself and hence could not be true and pure love.  Since God is true and pure love then, it stands to reason, that any love which is debased by being applied toward a lower objective cannot be true and pure love.  Love of money, for example, cannot be a true and pure love since money is a lower objective than love itself and, in fact, is most often grounded in temporal, superficial and potentially sinful things. It is interesting to note that money’s best use is often described as when it is used for a higher good, such as charity etc.

Likewise, one may speak of service as the rightful focus but, once again, such service has its highest form which it is applied as a tool toward a higher good and not as either an objective unto itself or a tool toward a lower objective.  One cannot speak of having the goal of simply serving, for example, without being rightly asked “serving what?” since all accept that the value of service only lies in serving a greater good.  Likewise, one cannot find salvation by serving evil. Hence, the value and role of service, like love, is best seen as a tool toward a greater good. Similarly, many speak of joy as being the initiative rather than the derivative. However, once again,  one can say that one’s ultimate goal is to be happy but, as life teaches us, what brings joy and happiness is not always what is right.  Some may find joy in torturing others. Such people may say that joy is their goal and surely that may be the case. However, since that joy is actually realized and actualized through evil, such joy shall surely never be the path toward salvation. Again, the true and highest value of joy lies in finding happiness in a greater good. Finally, humility is seen by many as some magical trait unlocking salvation. However, while righteous humility directed at a greater good is holy humility, weak or cowardly humility is never a path toward salvation since the true follower of Christ will often have to be anything but weak and cowardly.   No, while all of these ideas and many others like them can certainly be beautiful pearls along the way toward a greater good, there must be something much greater than these which must be the derivative from which all of their positive and saving graces flow. That greater Good, of course, must necessarily be God and therefore God should be the reason and purpose for all we think, feel, believe, say, and do if we are to find salvation.  The soul that is fixated on God well be less likely to sin. The soul whose main purpose and reason for existence is God will be less likely to falter. The soul whose ultimate goal and meaning is God will be less likely to be lost.

Copyright 2011  Gabriel Garnica